Scary Mommy blog creator Jill Smokler broke some major news to her followers this week—then had to tell her family, her close friends, and accept it herself—that her husband Jeff is gay. Lately, you have been getting the feeling that something is not right with your boyfriend. He seems emotionally distant and doesn't pay attention to you like he used to in the past. At night, he wants to go right to bed and doesn't want to cuddle. Suspicious that he may be up to something, you start to do a little snooping and pick up his cell phone to see who he has been texting. To your surprise, he has the phone locked with a password, something he never did before. You think to yourself, 'Is my boyfriend cheating on me? Why has he been acting so strange? Does he not find me attractive anymore?' How To Meet Your HusbandFinding out your boyfriend is cheating on you can be devastating for any person, gay, straight or bi.The pain becomes amplified when we have convinced ourselves that 'he would never do something like' that or if we have been cheated on in the past. Tumblr cougars fucking boys. After consulting with a number of gay men who are actively cheating on their partners, plus the former boyfriends of cheaters and therapists who understand the psychology of infidelity, Mister Hollywood is ready to share ten tell-tale warning signs that your boyfriend may be doing things behind your back. Read these signs carefully because your relationship may depend on it. What follows are 10 major warning signs for gay men that may suggest that your man may be cheating on you right behind your back. And with the exception of a few points, these warning signs can apply to anyone really. Some of these warning are obvious. Others however are ones you may not have thought of before and should not be ignored. The list is not exhaustive. The first 5 contain follow up details. The remaining ones require you tune into your intuition and empathy. Disclaimer: Asses these warning signs in their totality. You need to look at the total picture to better understand if your boyfriend is cheating on you. OK, let's jump right in! This is a sign that many partners of gay men miss. Historically, gay guys pay attention to themselves in a big way and so it can be hard to know if your man is doing something unusual. There are a few indicators you should be aware of however. First, look to see if he is making any new purchases for clothing items that are different than the brand he usually buys. Men who cheat often try to impress a new love interest by looking sharp. Many will start to buy clothes that the other guy is wearing to reflect a common interest. Third, pay attention to the amount of time he is spending grooming. Does it seem like he has been trying to look especially sharp? You need to ask yourself who he is doing this for. Is he shaving areas he normally does not? Finally, ask yourself if he has been spending more time at the gym—this is especially true if he never seemed as interested before in fitness. Again, you need to add all of these points up for this warning sign in order to get a clear picture of what’s going on with your man. This too is another point that is often overlooked by many gay men when it comes to a potential cheating boyfriend. There are a few things in this area you want to look out for that you can’t ignore. First, ask yourself if he smells different when he comes home at night than he did that morning. It could be for normal reasons, like taking a quick shower at the gym. It could also be because he grabbed a shower at another guy’s place. Again, you need to really pay attention to this. Bathhouses If your man is going to bathhouses, be sure to take an extra whiff of him to smell for chlorine or other chemicals that may suggest he has been in whirlpools. If he has been in a sauna, sniff for a woodsy, pine scent. If you smell anything of this, go through his wallet to see if he has a membership card. The card probably won't say 'baths' on it so you may have to do some investigating if you find something suspicious. Note: Several actively cheating men have shared with Mister Hollywood that that if their boyfriend had only checked their wallets, they would have been busted long ago. Finally, take a good whiff of your boyfriend to see if he smells like sex. This means his body and his breath. He winces a little bit. Sexy twink bottoms tumblr women. The smell of sex has an easily recognizable odor. If you do it right, you may be able to smell the other guy (or guys!). The odor of poppers needs to be included here as well, particularly if your man does not use them or has never smelled like poppers before. You may be thinking this is a silly point but pay attention. If your man is usually laid back and mellow, you should be concerned if he starts to provide lots of extra detail about his whereabouts in ways that he never did before. If his words seemed rehearsed, they probably are. Also under this point, if he seems like he is becoming suspicious of you, it may be a sign he is cheating. Yes, you read that right. In psychology, this behavior is called projecting. In other words, he starts to accuse you of the very behaviors he is engaged in. A number of men who were cheated on shared that had they paid attention to this singular point more closely, they would have figured out their man was sleeping around long ago. Don’t ignore this one! This may be a very obvious sign but you will want to include in your total assessment of his behavior. If he doesn’t seem to be paying attention to what you are saying, seems like he is “somewhere else” mentally or seems emotionally disconnected from you when you are having sex, this may be a strong indication that he is cheating on you. And obviously, if he is not interested in sex with you over a long period of time, you need to be concerned. There are of course other reasons for this to happen, such as work related problems, family issues or health concerns. He could also just be depressed. Still, here you will want to look at his historical behaviors in totality to figure out what is going on. As one man told me who was cheating on his boyfriend, “I was thinking about the other guy when I was sleeping with my boyfriend. I did it a lot and my man never realized it was going on. I felt so guilty after awhile I just stopped having sex with him. You may be thinking this is an obvious point but it is worth mentioning. If your man gets real edgy whenever you are around his phone, tries to hide the fact he is texting someone, hides his emails from you or begins to block your view from seeing parts of his Facebook account (like his Friends list) alarm bells should be going off big-time. We can also include Twitter and any other forms of social media that he may commonly use.
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